Uff...these engineers!!!!

What's really up with these engineers (no offense)?? Do they even have an idea what they are really doing?? I am not sure about other's, but at my work, the engineers and the marketing ppl are always ready to get down to the war zone.

Now I work as a Marketing Manager and am responsible for the entire marketing dept. of the company. The VP of Engineering is someone I am always having arguments with. I don't say that I ought to be always right...but 90% of times what I am saying is making sense. But since he is an engineer, he has only one track mind. I have literally told him once that he cannot keep doing things the way is is currently doing. Since I am still in the company and he didn't get me fired, I guess he cared a damn for what I said.

I had always heard about clashes between the MBA's and the Engineers. I am surprised how true everything I heard has turned out to be. It just is so hard for them to understand tiny miny things. The word "customer" just doesn't exist in their dictionaries. Deadlines are not part of their routine.

Really, somedays I am so frustrated with all this-and I guess, today has been one of those days!

Love beats all barriers!

"Have you gone mad? Polygamy is in their religion, and in a few days he will have another woman in the house. Then you will come back to me, crying".

This was what my friend's mother said to her when she confessed in front of her parents that she is in love with a Muslim guy.

"Sikhs & Muslims-are you even in your senses"?

asked her dad. Not that she was surprised by their reaction, but still, she was totally shaken.

She has been in love with this guy since 4 years. Through these 4 yrs span, she had many times doubted her instincts and has several times gotten out of the relationship. But the love has been stronger than the social barriers, and sooner or later they got back together. Now when her parents started looking for a guy for her, she realized that she had to do what she had feared all this time-talk to her parents. After talking to them, she is once again not sure what she is getting herself into. Would she fit in there, would they accept her, would she have to convert...and so many more questions are popping up in her mind. She has talked to several people about this, and has been getting different opinions/advices.

All these yrs she has been talking about this to me and now she is seeking an advice. She said that I should know better since mine is an inter caste marriage too. But I told her, that my situation is a lot more different than hers. I got married into a Hindu family (when I am a Sikh). I think Hindu & Sikh religions are so much intermingled, that hardly any differences exist now. Ever since I have been married, I haven't even realized that I have been married into a Hindu family. Both the religions are so similar in beliefs and rituals.

I have known the guy she loves since 4 yrs also and I could say for sure that no other man would keep her as happy as he would. At the same time I do understand that both the religions are very different. But I don't think that marriages between a Muslim and a hindu/sikh don't work. I personally know atleast 3-4 couples who were in same situation, got married and are just as happy. BUT in all these cases, the girl is Muslim and the guy is sikh/hindu. What my friend fears is that the Muslim religion is a lot more rigid than any other religion and since she will be becoming part of that religion (rather than the other way around), would it really work?

All I can say is that, there would be a lot of adjustments required on her part (and also on the guy's part), but if they are truly in love (which they sure are), no religion barrier could mess up anything between them.

I said 'No'!!!!

If anyone wants to learn the art of saying 'no', help is just around the corner...talk to your parents...afterall, all our lives they have said no to us so many times...:)"NO means no" is what most of the parents would say...as if we don't know what no means:)Well, but I guess saying no to your kids is one of the easiest tasks of your life. 'No' just doesn't come so easily & naturally when you step out of the house...

Seriously, how hard is it to say no to someone? I think it's really hard. For me, saying a 'no' face to face is just next to impossible. God bless the creature who came up with the idea of emails, etc where saying 'no' is just a click away.

I really think that sometimes it's important to say 'no'. Be it the personal front of your life, or the professional front, you just cannot keep giving in all the time. People would soon take advantage of that! Well, maybe writing this would teach me the art of saying 'no':)